This month, we are exploring family planning options for women with Turner Syndrome. Below are some adoption tips from one mom, Meghan, who is a woman who has Turner Syndrome. She and her husband embarked on their journey to adopt in 2014 and were glad to welcome their son into their family in 2016, when he was an infant. Despite the long process, they felt the journey was completely worth it! You can learn more of Meghan’s adoption story in our past webinar, Choosing Your Journey: A Discussion on Family Planning.
Research and Save Money
If you are considering adoption, first start researching and saving money early on. Even if you know you won’t be ready to start the process right away, it helps to know what is involved in the process and what you can do to be ready when the time comes.
Also, research different types of adoption agencies. Every agency is different and has a its own, requirements, and costs. Research many to find one that is a good fit for you. Be prepared for lots of paperwork, no matter what agency you choose.
Evaluate What You Are Open to
Closely evaluate what you are open to, and keep in mind that the more you are open to, the shorter your wait could be. We expanded what we were open to, and it helped reduce our wait time. Following are some questions to ask yourself(selves):
- Do you want to adopt, foster, or foster-to-adopt?
- Do you want an open or closed adoption?
- What gender(s) are you open to?
- What age(s) are you open to? Do you want to adopt an infant, toddler, young child, older child, teenager?
- What race(s)/ethnicity(ies) would you be open to?
- Would you be willing to adopt siblings?
- Would you be open to adopting a child with mental, emotional, or physical issues?
Perhaps the most important adoption tip is to be a little flexible. Nothing is ever perfect, so try to let go of the picture in your head of how things are “supposed to be.” It’s OK to have those dreams, but if you wait for everything to be perfect before you get started, you may never get started, or you may pass up an opportunity for something wonderful! When we brought our adopted son home, my grandfather was very sick in the hospital. It wasn’t the ideal time to adopt, but we were blessed that he was eventually able to meet his great grandson.
Finally, don’t forget to take photos and make memories along the way. Document milestones, family trips, holidays, etc. You will be glad to have these things to share with your child later. I can’t wait to share my son’s story with him when he is a little older.
We have many resources available to help you learn about family planning options: